Saturday, December 11, 2010

The Importance of Empathy

Understanding Empathy is to understand the way people interact with one another.

Empathy is a situational understanding of purpose, ideals, morals, and thoughts that humans share with one another.

Being able to grasp this concept will not only enlighten our knowledge of others, but also allow us to experience more intimate relationships with one another.

I will be the first to admit that empathy is not my strongest trait, and at times there is not a shred of it to be found.

Empathy has always seemed like something for people much smarter than myself to discuss, when in reality it is something that everyone employes on a regular basis. Sensing that a loved one is down or upset, feeling the need to help someone that is struggling, the smile that comes when seeing a child open a present; these are all situations in which empathy is enacted. It is the emotional understanding and feeling we experience when watching or hearing about and experience of another.

Although these feelings are empathetic in nature, the true measure of empathy comes with the actions of the individual effected.

Empathy brings a hammer to the walls of the human relationship, enabling people to understand one another in a much more intimate sense. Empathy is a universal concept that should be utilized in every situation; it is “the moral glue that holds civil society together.” (C. Calloway-Thomas) Not everyone is as inept as others in the art of empathy; this is why it is important for a greater understanding of the concept to be unveiled. Empathy can and should be learned.

Is empathy the fix all? Can it bring broken people back together? There is not a clear answer to these questions. However the world would be a much better place if people would allow an understanding of each other to take place, if there was empathy for one another, maybe the world would not be the broken place that it is today.

Because of the culture of today, especially within the US, there is a great deal of importance found in who is considered "right" in any given situation. While I agree that some concepts and thoughts are meant to be held and not compromised, I would argue that for the majority of situations the essence of individual is pushed aside and disregarded for the idol of the theology or idea presented. That is to say that many people to hold to a concept of, "My ideology is more important than you."

But maybe there doesn’t always need to be an answer if there is understanding.

Is it possible that the differences we fight over are moot in the light of who we are?

The key emphasis of empathy is purely relational and is revealed through everyday interaction with other individuals. The big situations as well as the small must be examined through a sense of empathy in order for human relationships to expand and to be fulfilling.

The concept of empathy is a very difficult one for me to unpack. There is the tendency for me to fall into my political ideology which a lines itself with the Libertarian party. Using this ideology it is easy for me to think that everyone should care for themselves and that it is not my responsibility to care or pay for the faulty actions of others. However I must still remind myself that being a Christian means that it is my responsibility to care for the hurting people in this world. Empathy assists me in walking this line between the two seemingly conflicting ideologies.

In this struggle I have been pushed towards a simple ideology presented in Genesis 2:15:

"The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it."

It is inherently man's (both male and female) job to care for creation.
We must care for each other, and this begins with Empathy.

Monday, December 6, 2010

When Our Soul Runs Ahead Of Our Mind

Okay Gregory, here's a real quick one I write in the dark while the candles flicker, the tree is lit, wine is good, and my wife and son are playing with plato in the kitchen. Thanks for the invite...

"When Our Soul Runs Ahead Of Our Minds"

I heard that quote from Erwin McManus a year ago and it has stuck with me for some reason. It helps define those moments in our lives where we can't describe what's happening but we cannot deny what we're feeling. I think those moments occur more frequently around Christmas. For whatever reason, our world is much more spiritually sensitive during this advent season. Something inside of us awakens. As Chesterton put it, "The worst moment for the atheist is when he is really thankful and has no one to thank." Our spiritual senses are more alert and we take notice of God around us.

On Sunday, my wife met a friend at a church in North Bend. She had been going for a few weeks by herself and was excited for a friend to sit by her. During the first song of worship she began to cry heavily and could barely articulate what she was feeling. With teary eyes she barely mustered to my wife the words, "I've put God in a box and I know he doesn't belong there."

I'm sure you can relate to one of those moments. We've all had them. See, our spirituality is both intellectual and emotional. We are not just charts, graphs, logic, and percentages. As human beings, we are built with much more. We are emotional, soulful, inspirational, and creative. Philip Yancey would say the moment we try to analyze and dissect grace, is the moment it dies like a butterfly pinned by needles.

My point is simple. Be okay with the mystery this Christmas season. Let your mind run wildly with your soul. Just see where it takes you. Time for analysis, theology, and categorizing will come later. This Christmas season, let your soul take the lead.

Worship only truly happens when we don't completely understand what's happening. I say, let the wonderful, gracious, extravagant mystery of a God that dared to become human overwhelm us this Christmas.

And let our souls stand in awe.

If you haven't, I double dog dare you to ask God to show himself. I prayed that prayer many years ago and look what happened.